We need to be continually thinking through what it means to be a man or woman in Christ. Not only thinking about it, but carrying out the implications into our lives. One of my favorite quotes on what it means to be a man is in Piper’s, This Momentary Marriage. This is just one aspect of what it means to be a man, and probably the most obvious.
If there is a sound downstairs during the night and it might be a burglar, you don’t say to her, “This is an egalitarian marriage, so it’s your turn to go check it out. I went last time.” And I mean that – even if your wife has a black belt in karate. After you’ve tried to deter him, she may finish off the burglar with one good kick to the solar plexus. But you’d better be unconscious on the floor, or you’re no man. that’s written on your soul, brother, by God Almighty. Big or little, strong or weak, night or day, you go up against the enemy first.
That’s leadership through physical protection. Piper also points us to leadership through physical provision, spiritual protection, and spiritual provision.