There’s a great new book out by Sam Crabtree, Practicing Affirmation. Here are a few quotes that may encourage you to grab it.
Why let the practice of affirming others be a normal part of your life?
For the glory of God:
To fail to commend the character of Christ in people is to fall into the same lackluster indifference of a person who never exclaims what a beautiful morning it is, thereby robbing the Creator of glory he deserves for making that sky, that volcano, that character (24).
Pointing to Christlike character qualities in a person is a way of praising God, by commending his attributes reproduced in others by his grace (69).
For your own good and the good of others:
A shortage of affirmation explains many things, from teenage rebellion to failed marriages. Affirmation withers up, and with it, the relationship (54).
A steady diet of affirmations in a relationship is like watering and hoeing in a garden – it’s refreshing and keeps the weeds down (66).
Why can I not remember anyone talking explicitly and at length about this topic? I should have been rebuked a long time ago.
C. J. Mahaney: “if you find that your communication lacks encouragement, if you want to grow in affirming others, if you plan to say any words at all today – please read this book.”